She loves me, She loves me not.

Relationships are quite a touchy subject to most people. Co-dependency is everywhere and most people are completely unaware of it. The poor souls on this planet walking around needing someone else’s approval to enjoy life or in fact live at all. Emotions are an incredibly controlling force; learning to master them is a life lesson.  All rational thought flies out the window when your emotions take over. People have done some seriously stupid and/or amazing things when the power of love pulls the veil over your eyes. That’s why they say love is blind. Obsession forces you to focus on one thing and forget everything else.

It is very romantic for you’re significant other to say. “Oh baby, you fulfill me” in that moment it might seem like the right thing to say, however, what this does is put pressure on you and your loved one. Pressure to always fulfill until you wake up one day and forget who you are. Then you try to be yourself again, this is when you’re told, “you’ve really changed”.

 Too many relationships are simply entered into for the wrong reasons. “What can I get out of this” is the agenda of most parties involved, feeling that initial sexual energy rushing into things, this is a recipe for failure. The right mindset should be “what can I put into this, how can I enrich his/her life”. I think the point of relationships is to share each other’s completeness, not complete each other. Nowhere else can you more immediately experience who you really are than in relationships.  Your relationship with your loved ones, family, friends, pets, my relationship with my keyboard right now lets me glimpse into my psyche.

With this type of thought going forward, I think you have to be self-centered. Sounds conceited I know but think about it. Center yourself on yourself. It’s not what the other is doing, thinking or feeling. It’s about how you react to how the other is doing, thinking or feeling. You have the power of choice; you can choose to think from a place of love or a place of fear. You are the master of your world, thoughts are your slaves, emotions are amplified thoughts, helping your realize your mind.

“Know thyself” the cornerstone of any spiritual teaching. You cannot love anyone else if you don’t love yourself.